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This weeks topic is: Domestic Abuse: What is it?
Domestic abuse is defined as a pattern of sexual, physical, emotional and/or financial abuse, perpetrated with the intent and result of establishing and maintaining control over an intimate partner.
National statistics show that:
- 1 in 4 women have been a victim of domestic abuse.
- 1 in 33 men have been victim of domestic abuse.
- Women account for 85% of the victims of intimate partner violence.
- Men account for 15% of the victims of intimate partner violence.
- Approximately 1 in 5 female high school reports being physically or sexually abused by a dating partner.
- One in five teens in a serious relationship reports having been hit, slapped, or pushed by a partner
- 14% of teens report their boyfriend/girlfriend threatened to harm them or themselves to avoid a breakup.
- Domestic violence can happen in any relationship, regardless of ethnic group, income level, religion, education, or sexual orientation.
http://www.cdc.gov/ViolencePrevention/intimatepartnerviolence/index.html
The diagram below gives examples of ways that abusers control their partners:
How do you know for sure if you are in an abusive relationship? Following is a list of questions, can you answer yes to any of these?
Has your partner:
hit/slapped you with open hand
assaulted you when pregnant
punched you with fist
pulled your hair
kicked you
pushed or shoved you
hit you with object
knocked you to the floor
stomped on you
twisted your arm
burned you
strangled you
What types of injuries have you received as a result of the physical abuse?
broken bones
black eyes
cuts or knife wounds
bruises
burns
Which of these has your partner done to you:
kept you away from friends/ family
kept you from attending school/ church or from working
called you names such as bitch/slut/worthless/stupid
accused you of having an affair
won’t let you go anywhere alone
won’t let you use the car
tells you how to wear your hair/makeup and how to dress
makes you ask for money for household necessities
won’t let you take the children when you leave
accuses you of being a bad parent
threatens to call DSS if you leave
destroys your property
makes threatening gestures
drives in a scary way while you and/or children are in car
Has your partner:
made you engage in sexual acts against your will
forced you to have sex/ raped you
degraded you in sexual ways
hurt you in front of the children
hurt you while children in another room
threatened the family pet
killed the family pet
threatened your/ your family’s life
threatened suicide
If you can answer yes to 5 or more of these questions you may be in an abusive relationship.
If you or anyone you know is in an abusive relationship and needs someone to talk to please call us at:
828.682.0056.
Someone is always here to listen 24 hours a day 7 days a week - all calls are confidentialOur next topic will be "Warning signs of an abusive personality."
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